The absurdity of a "you-can't-do-that" sort of religion plays out like this:
Suppose you're a kind, joyful person who lives life doing the "immoral" thing, whatever the immoral-du-jour happens to be. You love others. You care for orphans & widows. But you discover, towards the end of your life, that you've been doing things "wrong." You're a "sinner." With a contrite heart, you repent and then live out the last years of your life feeling a little guilty and miserable, but at least you're saved.
Or let's take the "women can't be pastors" issue. Suppose you've interpreted the text differently and spend your life preaching the good news that God loves us, and that Jesus' life, death, and resurrection is a demonstration of that great love, and that God promises to bring us into that resurrection life as well, both now and in the life to come. You preach, and people praise God and believe, and the good news spreads.
But then you're convinced that women can't actually do this, so you stop.
In both examples, the "you-can't-do-that" model of religion creates an absurd situation where you're somehow both moral and immoral at the same time, capable of loving others and delivering hope and compassion, but living in "disobedience" and are perhaps damned if you happen to die before stumbling upon behavior-modifying correction.
This is stupid.
And this isn't what the Scriptures teach. The Scriptures are full of life and hope, if you just look for it.